Beyond blame

By Carl Alasko

Subjects: Blame, Criticism, personal, Interpersonal relations, Emotions, Personal Criticism, Faultfinding

Description: "<B>The inspiring new book from the author of <I>Emotional Bullshit</I> reveals why no one is to blame-but everyone's accountable. </B> <BR><BR> For many, a rare day goes by in which the need to blame does not arise-be it to cover one's own errors or just to assign an unfortunate event some kind of name (i.e., "If only X hadn't said X, we wouldn't be in this mess.") And even for those who are somewhat better at keeping the impulse in check-it is still there. According to psychologist Carl Alasko, blame is such an intrinsic part of how we humans communicate that we rarely take a look at what we're actually doing-and how it can affect our relationships. <BR><BR> In this book, Alasko reveals that the need to assign blame when something bad happens stems from a very deep desire we all share to "see justice done". Understandable when a grave crime has been committed, but it can become a dangerous habit if we begin to operate as though placing blame were somehow <I>necessary</I> if we want to change something or someone in our world. Yet this feeling that "someone has to pay" is seldom productive in initiating positive change. In <I>Beyond Blame</I>, Alasko teaches readers to recognize destruction that blame causes in their lives-oftentimes without their even being aware-and to put an end to it once and for all. <BR><BR> The path to eliminating blame is not a quick or easy one but, as Carl Alasko demonstrates, it is a road that must be traveled if we hope to achieve true peace in our lives"--